All of us are worthy of crowns; all of us were born beautiful; however, along the way, something or someone or some people happened – depleting most of that belief. Don’t let others opinion of you take away that amazing you. Push them all away, adjust your crown and get your life started!
I was born in cosmopolitan Singapore, to an Indonesian father and Indian mother. Growing up, because of my skin colour and how screwed up the perception of beauty in Asia was, I often felt ugly and not worthy. Don’t get me wrong, I had a lovely childhood – sheltered & filled with love, laughter. Unfortunately, life outside our home and society was not as kind. I was teased, not so much of bullying, perhaps it did happen to a certain level but I wasn’t too bothered with that. The teasings however, were not pleasant, especially to a young mind. Of course, my self esteem suffered.
The only saving grace was that I had always been told that I was bright – so, that was my biggest escape. I continued to learn and absorb things, which unknown to me then but will be great asset (to me) later. All these time, knowing deep in my heart of hearts I cannot let this skin colour situation dampen my spirit. I carried on with life; I have always loved looking good and putting my best foot forward anyways. So thats what I did.
Some years later, things took a little shift. Darker skinned individuals emerge out of nowhere to be champions in beauty pageants – to have leading roles in movies – to be the front runners on world entertainment stage. Thats when things changed. Boy, was it a relief!
Fast forward even more years later, here I am living my best life; blessed with things that I have always wanted for myself. I married the most amazing man and we have been living in few exciting cities in the world – we build a family; our boys are now 6 & 7 years old. We travel to different places. I have my own Image branding and lifestyle practise, something I have always wanted to do. I combine this with my yoga and wellness background for optimum results. I also write for few magazines.
I am very glad I do what I did – I carried on despite the rough start. Not feeling too good about the way I looked, yes but I never let those nasty remarks stop me from doing whatever I wanted to do.
Now as an adult and an image branding professional, I know better; skin colour, body shape, height does not even matter. Personality, how you conduct yourself in public, the way you dress, the way you speak – these are among the most important factors.
Image branding & lifestyle work has always what I wanted to do; in fact, I want to do more. I want to help those, especially those similar in my position before, see the beauty of feeling and looking good, despite what society norm is. I am glad to be able to share what I know.
The truth is, if you look good, you will feel good and if you feel good, you will do good!
Picture 1 – 15 years old
Picture 2 – 19 years old (with my best friend, Ethel)
Picture 3 – Now